When you have a fight or other painful event in a relationship, how do you get back on track?

Many folks would say forgiveness.

I agree — that is a great place to start! However, I’m going to step out on a limb here so you can give your forgiveness practice more power. Forgiveness is not, as many believe, the entire healing process. It is the first step.

But it is an extremely important first step that allows the rest of healing to happen.

This came up for me recently, a little too close to home, when someone I love took dramatic offense and hurt at something I said with all good intentions. They were done with me; I was devastated. Several days later, a friend brilliantly and lovingly asked me, “What else do you need from this situation in order to heal?”

Great question! You can’t go anywhere if you don’t know where you want to go! It’s so easy to get stuck in the emotions of a crisis without looking for the healing solution.

I went within. I… I wanted to be forgiven. Even though I had technically done nothing wrong, they were genuinely hurting. I wanted this person to say, “That’s OK dear, I understand, things like this happen sometimes, I’ll get over it, I forgive you.”

The Power of Forgiveness Is Disconnection

When we are stressed by a negative event, our energy and consciousness freezes. It locks us into the event(s), which is now in the past. Even today, many of us are locked to painful events from earlier in your life. (Some vividly, as if it happened yesterday. Is there anything left from your upbringing that can rile you up upon thinking of it?)

When you maintain connections to the past, you must power those connections with your energy and consciousness. They are distractions and energy drains. You struggle where there could be ease. You feel adrift, confused, or vaguely dissatisfied with life when you tend these old wounds. It is as if you are carrying them around in a massive backpack, bending under their weight.

This I know: the heart of healing is connection. It is connection to that which sustains and nourishes, and disconnection from that which drains and demoralizes.

Forgiveness is a letting go, a healthy disconnection of your energy and consciousness from the painful experience. It is a release of blame and the need to receive anything back. Forgiveness turns you around, from being stuck in the past, attached to what happened, to facing forward again, being present in today, and moving forward into healing.

Sometimes, it’s easy to get over an offense. Hey, things happen and we can move on. But in situations where stress, outrage, shock, hurt, and other emotions have firmly attached us to that original fight or event, forgiveness is golden. It initiates the healing process.

But What If They Won’t Forgive You?

What do you do when you are the transgressor — intentional and repenting, or unintentional — and the person you hurt will not forgive you? What do you when the other person is refusing to reconcile?

You heal. You step beyond this situation, by disconnecting yourself. And the #1 rule about healing is this: you have all the resources you need at all times.

The way energy works, the only way you can experience or perceive someone not forgiving you is if, in some way, you have not fully forgiven yourself. This you must do. As soon and as much as you can.

Surprisingly, and wonderfully, when you forgive yourself — when you disconnect from that event and the pain around it — you make it much easier for the person you hurt to do so, too.

Now THAT is healing. (You healer, you!)

You are not dependent on other things or people for your happiness and spiritual journey. Any thought that says otherwise is Resistance. You can find everything in the world within you, including forgiveness.

I know this spiritual principle, but I’m human and I had gotten caught up in my emotions and forgotten. When I remembered that no forgiveness on the outside means no forgiveness on the inside, I knew it was 100% right. I was devastated and shocked, and had not forgiven myself in the uproar.

Forgive Yourself and Free Yourself to Heal

After a nice meditation of self-forgiveness (“I choose to forgive myself, I choose to let this go, I hand this situation over to God for resolution, I choose to forgive them for not forgiving me,” etc etc), I felt less upset. You may choose to take a physical action of forgiveness, too, like a donation to a relevant charity or sharing your newfound wisdom with someone.

I will repeat this meditation a few times. Connections of energy and consciousness are a bit insidious. Once built, they tend to resonate with similar connections and entwine themselves where they don’t  belong. To truly forgive and fully let go, it helps to repeat your forgiveness exercises and touch on the situation from a variety of angles. You might want to get help from a healer or counselor.

Once you have forgiven yourself, you will be able to freely look at the situation and see what you reacted emotionally to and do some healing (eliminating or rewriting patterns) around those issues. Sometimes this stage is so easy, once we let go/forgive, that we assume forgiveness was all that was necessary. Hallelujah!

When I am done with my self-forgiveness, I will no longer need forgiveness from the other person. I have not abandoned them or the situation, but I will have completely let go of the source of the painful rift between us. It will be water under the bridge. And I will rest in that wonderful place of genuine spiritual independence, where others truly have no power over my happiness.

I pray for them to find this inner release, too.

© 2012 Daria Boissonnas

Have you struggled to forgive yourself? Do you have advice or a different perspective? Please share it in the comments below!

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

Is there some area of your life where you know you need to make a change, but you just… haven’t… done it yet?

Maybe you’ve been intending to lose that extra 10 pounds, start a newsletter for your business, finish your book, or do that scrapbook.

I bet you give yourself grief for not taking those steps. (You do, don’t you?) You might feel bad, criticize yourself (even in front of others), punish yourself subtly, or worse.

Stop it.

Right now.

Your intentions to change are actually great news, even without the action step!

Here is why. When we make change, we generally move through three phases. And any progress beyond the first phase should be applauded!

Beginning Phase: Nothing is wrong with me. I don’t need to change. What are you staring at?

Middle Phase: Uh oh, I noticed something I would like to change in my life. Ugh. Wow. How long has this been here? Why didn’t someone tell me? Oh, you did? Ack, just how pervasive is it? Oh, wow. Let me soak this in and get used to the idea. Let me look at it from all angles. I want to look around for solutions, but I’m not ready to know what I want to do about it yet.

Final Phase: I am ready to do something about this issue. In fact I am doing something! I am really excited to start a program this afternoon. I already have done the first three exercises in the workbook. I looked at a lot of options, and I do believe this is the one for me. I am committed to this change, and have created a reward system for myself. I am doing this for me, and will enjoy the outcome.

Tips for Surviving the Middle Phase of Change

Yes, it’s GREAT to want to change, even if you are not yet ready to do so. Here are five ways to make it easier to survive–and graduate from this phase.

1. Celebrate. If you know you want to make a change, but you aren’t doing anything, you are in the middle phase. It’s OK, in fact, it’s great! Congratulations! You made it out of being stuck! Pat yourself on the back. Celebrate your moving forward! And let go of all that guilt. Just because you had the idea does not mean you are ready to live it… yet.

2. Get Clarity. Discover exactly what you DO want to change. Often, it’s not what you think at first, when you first move into the Middle Phase. This phase is about clarification. You see what you want to fix or eliminate, but what do you want to replace it with?

Sometimes, your original goal (eg. lose 20 pounds) is just a hint at what you really want, and your real goal (love myself enough to find a romantic partner) is something different. Dig deep. Go on retreats, consult with proven intuitives, ponder and dig around until you identify the real dream at the core of your desire to change. Keep moving forward.

3. Look At Your Options. Look around for solutions, but don’t buy anything yet. Especially don’t buy something just because it came along–it might have come along as a form of resistance, not a godsend solution. Take a good look at its merits and costs. Try programs out first–almost everyone gives away a free recording or exercise or something to try. Are you ready to stick to a schedule and do the work?

4. Give Yourself Time. Right now, you are analyzing the situation–and it’s never as cut-and-dried as it seems. You need some time. Allow yourself to have it.

If you get antsy, set a date to decide what you will do about your desire to change. If you don’t have the information or if you are not fully connected to creating a solution, set another date and some things to do or learn before that date.

5. Get Help If You Get Stuck. Yes, it is possible to get stuck in the Middle Phase, stuck in your resistance and fears and doubts, not moving forward when you want to. Get help, bounce your fears off others, and while you are exploring your resistance, be kind to yourself.

We do not punish second graders for not knowing high school math. Second grade is a phase, a stepping stone. Enjoy it. What right do you have to be mean to any of God’s children, yourself included?

When you let go of the guilt, self-criticism, angst, and self-sabotage you are raining down upon yourself, you open up a lot of energy to constructive uses, including healing. You can progress more quickly through the Middle Phase of Change and reach your end goal. Then you can celebrate once again!

© 2012 Daria Boissonnas

Have you ever thought of change this way before? Share your thoughts with us in the comment section below!

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

It is the worst feeling in the world when you unintentionally cause someone else pain. You wish you could rewind, unsay, and erase, erase, erase.

It is like lightning striking your relationship, too. It hurts both sides.

I’m at a loss to understand or amend what happened between me and a very important person in my life. This morning, my emotions are crippling my ability to think straight, so I’m doing what any writer might do to pull myself out of it. WRITING.

Sadly, the situation keeps making me think of a dramatic story I read in one of those emailed-to-everyone-and-their-brother chain emails. With the email long gone, I’ll retell it here (and please let me know if it comes from a book with copyrights, thx).

Once upon a time, there was a boy and his dad, some arrows and a fence. The boy opens the story by picking on another kid with his friends, as kids do. He badly hurts someone’s feelings without, like most kids, fully understanding what he has done.

So the father asks the boy to shoot a few arrows into the fence, and the kid does. The father explains that the arrows are like the insults he lobbed at the other kid. The arrows damaged the fence, and those comments hurt the kid, too.

Light bulb starts to go on in the son’s head. He wants to run apologize to the other kid right away.

But first the father asks him to pull the arrows out of the fence. They leave gaping holes and splintered wood. “Can you fix the fence?” asks the dad. Horrified, the kid realizes no. Even if you fill the holes with putty, they are still there. The fence is permanently damaged.

Lesson: When you hurt someone, you have created a wound that, even though you smooth it over later, is still there in some form. Permanent damage. Therefore, do everything you can to never hurt someone on purpose. Bite your tongue. Go for a walk. Let the vitriol cool off. Get some healing. Make the better choice, and love your neighbor.

But what about healing?

It will never, ever get better? Omg, what a depressing story! But so is my personal situation, in its recent rawness. It feels irreversible. I feel like our relationship will never be the same because this horrible, awful misunderstanding happened. There will be holes in the fence. We will always remember this.

Wait.

Sure, the dad’s demonstration helped the kid better understand THAT he hurt someone. But is it really true? Do hearts and humans, like wooden fences, never heal?

Is this an outdated, incorrect story? Is this one of the common cultural myths we are learning to heal beyond?

Do you think it is possible, with forgiveness and genuine healing (not repairing), to fill those holes and restore the relationship? Do you think the dad is teaching his kid the wrong principle, which, in reverse is this: when you get hurt you will never be able to repair yourself?

I myself believe that this story is old thinking. After 15 years as a healer, I know it is.

I know that genuinely healing a harmful relationship event (not fixing, not undoing) can transform the relationship by taking it to a new place of understanding, deepened love, and appreciation. It’s not quite “learning the lesson” in the event — it is transcending it to a place where it does not matter any more.

It’s easier to understand this by thinking of little things that are easy to forgive and forget, like a toddler wobbling and spilling your coffee on your lap. Unintentional, easy to let go of (maybe after you change and mop up). So can the BIG rifts in life be, with healing, true healing. To begin, you just have to ask how you can get to that bright and healed place.

Thanks for the reminder. Thanks for helping me pull out of my old attitude.

I am feeling better already.

© 2012 Daria Boissonnas

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

Just who was it said, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”?

According to wikiquote, this quip is most often misattributed to:

• Benjamin Franklin (perhaps because he was insane for flying a metallicized kite in a lightning storm),

• Albert Einstein (because the internet believes Al was a Law of Attraction guru who said everything that’s cool), and

• Mark Twain (maybe because he had the same hairdresser as Einstein and we get them mixed up).

But no, sorry, none of those wise men said it.

Don’t Seek and You Won’t Find

Seriously, the earliest occurrence of this quote is a 1981 Narcotics Anonymous booklet, according to wikiquote, and might have come from Alcoholics Anonymous. Next, it can be found in the writing of Rita Mae Brown, but we will not ask her where she got it.

The quote works when we are in denial or stuck in a negative loop, doing the same thing over and over instead of doing something new, while wishing our problem would magically go away. In this case, it is time for new tactics.

We could rewrite the quote in a catchy new phrase: “When your steps go round and round, another option must be found.”

Or make a great T-shirt out of: “Wishing is for fairy godmothers. You have to move your a$$.

A New Meaning

But hang on. Is it in fact nuts to keep doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result?

I say no, not always.

In fact, we often need more of this kind of persistence-against-all-odds in our lives. Instead of a decline in mental health, doing the same thing over and over while hoping for a new result can be an expression of our highest goals: healing, trust, and faith.

To attain healing, for example, you must think beyond the current situation and the results you expect to get. You must leap beyond them and expect, even if you don’t know what it looks like, a very different result.

We celebrate the fact that Mark Twain, after receiving tons of rejections, sent out even more letters trying to publish his writing, expecting a different result.  Today, over 100 years after his death, his books are required reading and still sell like ice cream at the fair.

Hooray for Einstein persisting in sharing his inside-out ideas until others could see  the world through his eyes and physics could evolve forward into a radical new paradigm.

Thank goodness Annie Sullivan kept trying, over and over, against all odds and expectations, to help deaf and blind Helen Keller as a child to understand sign language! By doing so, she helped awaken Helen Keller, who became a beloved writer and lecturer, winner of the Presidential Medal of Freedom, inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame, and commemorated on the Alabama 2003 quarter.

Make the Leap, Step by Step

What kept them going? Hope? An inner knowing? Love? Inspiration?

Something did, something that helped them transcend reality as it was, and shift into a new and better unexpected outcome. Add this magic into the mix and you no longer have insanity. You have transcendence and healing.

How about you? What new goal are you currently stretching for, or would like to reach? Where do you need encouragement to keep going, to send out a few letters, try one more time, keep your eye on the prize, even if it feels impossibly far away?

What is it that you can hang on to? A motive, a higher ideal, a reason why, a curiosity, inspiration, reading Helen Keller’s story again… How can you find that magic fairy dust that can help you transcend the expected, and fly over the rainbow?

Yes, as you reach for your goal, you may adjust how you write those letters or teach your pupil or share your vision. But the advice is the same:

To create miracles, connect to Potential and take ordinary actions, over and over, while solidly expecting a different result. This creates healing.

© 2012 Daria Boissonnas

What has helped you to transcend old expectations? Share your story and wisdom with us in the comments!

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

I’ve been searching hard for a good quote about being a strong role model for others. It’s an important role to play. Role models shine their light brightly to help those behind them find their way. They uplift and inspire.

As healers, we need to be great role models for our clients and fans. We must walk in the shoes of our divine Inner Healer. We must care for and support ourselves so we can create as much healing as possible in the world.

That means if you recommend nutritional support, you should take it yourself. If you offer an energy healing technique, you should receive that method of healing from other practitioners yourself. If you are a lawyer, you should have your own legal ducks in a row.

The odd thing is that I discovered many of the celebrities and thinkers we admire do not want to be called role models. Keeping in mind that these are unconfirmed quotes from those junky online quote sites, here is the sort of thing I’m finding. (Do not quote these without confirming their source, just get the gist and be amazed:)

“Making me into a role model is placing too much importance on what I see as a work in progress.” –British musician P. J. Harvey

“I’m no role model.” –American athlete Charles Barkley

“In the right situations, I can try to help and be a role model, but I’m still gonna speak my mind, and if that affects the role-model deal, then too bad.” –American musician Toby Keith

I get their point. They are not perfect and do not want to be held up as such.

But who is perfect?

We seem to have a mistaken idea that role models have to be perfect. I tell clients all the time that I share their struggles, flaws, and regular dips into the dark night of the soul. What I have developed over the years, however, are strategies for catching myself earlier and pulling myself out faster and faster. I’ve also developed practices and mindsets to keep myself from falling down as often or as hard. That is the value of the role model.

What we really admire in our role models is this: they are not perfect, but in some aspect they have developed ways of being that we wish to develop, too. Practical tools, tips, and tricks like this are what we want from our coaches and mentors and role models. Ultimately, and ideal role model knows their flaws and loves themself anyway. They be themselves, their brilliant, fun salves. That creates charisma. That’s what we crave in role models: permission to be ourselves.

If you are a leading person in your field, be comfortable with the fact that you are a role model. Own it. And live it. Be yourself. Do what you admire in others. Look up to yourself. People won’t be able to get enough of you.

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“I don’t want to be perfect, but I do want to be a role model. My mom always tells me that imperfections equal beauty. All of us are imperfect.”  –American musician Miley Cyrus

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”  –American author Mark Twain

© 2012 Daria Boissonnas

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

With energies shifting, more and more of us are becoming aware of our intuitive abilities. How about you? Do you know what form your intuition takes? Do you know how to recognize it and what to do with it?

Intuition comes in many guises. Intuition is simply a way of receiving information via the parts of your consciousness that are other than your physical body or rational, thinking mind.

Intuition is perfectly normal. We are all born with a vast spectrum of consciousness, a rainbow of flavors, which can receive information. So there are many ways you receive information, in addition to your five standard senses and your thinking mind.

Your job, my dear spiritual traveler, is to learn to be unafraid of your intuition, as you would be perfectly OK with sight or sound or other inputs you are used to. Your spiritual responsibility is to learn to recognize and decipher this additional information, and then figure out how to live a good life with it, and even use it to help people.

Intuition is a great source of objective information and guidance. When information comes in through these channels, it does not flow through the fallible human mind. It stays in its purest form, from God’s mouth to your ear, you might say. As we process or think about this intuitive info, or rationalize it, or interpret it, however, we begin to dirty the waters. A skillful intuitive does as little interpretation as possible.

To access your inner wisdom, you must first familiarize yourself with the way the extra info comes in. Learn to recognize it, and especially discern it from random thoughts — because your thinking mind can be mistaken. (Actually, the mind is quite famous for being mistaken, and for making up false stories of all kinds.)

I’m sorry to say that your intuition did not come with an owners manual. In this article series, we will take a good look at the several different kinds of intuition.

Types of Intuition – 1. Claircognizance

Most flavors of intuition begin with the prefix “clair-”, which comes to us from French, meaning “clear”. You can slap “clair” on the front end of any kind of word describing how you receive your information.  Er, that is, any word describing the way it feels like you receive your information. Er, that is, describing the most similar “normal” way of receiving information.

Oh, let’s just jump in, shall we?

1. Claircognizance — clear knowing. You just know. You know who is calling, and it turns out to be them. You know your lover will be home late, and they are. You know something bad will happen this morning, and you’re in a fender-bender. It is not belief or thoughts. You. Know.

Claircognizance may be the most common form of intuition today. I suspect it is more widespread than any survey can uncover… because you can have this form of intuition and not even know it! Ask yourself this: how many times a week do you experience or refer to what you may call: a funny feeling, impression, gut feeling, hunch, inkling, forboding, instinct, premonition or even a plain old thought! If you are not good at recognizing your intuition, claircognizance will totally feel like thoughts.

One close friend who is very claircognizant honestly believed he was a good guesser. He could find things in 20 minutes that other experts could not find for days, but he thought nothing of it. He didn’t know that everyone is born with perfectly normal levels of consciousness, beyond the thinking mind, that can gather information.

Now you know this.

For a few years, he didn’t believe me about being claircognizant. Now, he admits it. Better yet, he’s learning to differentiate this cleaner information from his chaotic monkey-minded thoughts.

When we don’t recognize the value of our intuition, we don’t benefit from it as well as we can. If he had admitted how valuable, incisive, and consistently accurate his gift was, he could have made a very highly paid living focusing on finding things that other experts could not. A great living based on one of his Divine Gifts!

Are You Claircognizant?

So think about it over the next few days… when you get a hunch, what does it feel like? Does it come with words or pictures? A feeling of calmness and peace? Or is it a random (but recognizable) blip of information in a river of thoughts?

Another clue to our intuition often comes from childhood. We tend to train ourselves to ignore our intuitive gifts as we grow up, but we can often see them in hindsight. Can you think of hunches you had regularly as a kid? Did you have a good people sense? Feel like animals talked to you or you to them? Good sense for how the grownups were feeling? Imaginary friends? Talked to fairies or your dead grandmother?

When I was little, I always had a “feeling” about trips. I knew exactly how I would feel emotionally during them, and I was 100% correct. In my early 20s, starting a Sunday night trip home, I felt like I was driving to my death. Spooked, I crashed with a friend and drove home at 4am. Even in the morning light, I almost wiped out on black ice in the mountains. We will never know for sure what would have happened, but I’m glad I listened to my gut and drove the next day.

Another gift I’ve had for as long as I can remember is being able to either predict coin tosses or know when the answer was blocked and I had no idea. 100% right when extensively tested by a disbelieving boyfriend once upon a time, LOL.

See if you can now begin to separate out your claircognizance from your other sensory inputs and mind activity. If you get a hunch about something, see if you can verify the extra information. Keep a notebook handy and see how you do. You may surprise yourself. You may completely validate what you’ve suspected for years, more like!

You are intuitive. How can you use your gifts to live a blissful life that benefits others?

Next time:  clairaudience.

Still Confused?

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If you have another form of intuition, please comment below.

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

The client called out of the blue. “You have to help me!” he said, “I’ve scheduled an important event and now my astrology says it’s a terrible day where everything will go wrong!”

While some people scoff at astrology, I find that as you step onto your spiritual path and further awaken your healing gifts, you actually become more sensitive to these background energies in the universe. In a sense, your readings can become increasingly accurate (especially with a good practitioner). At some point, you may become fearful of a negative prediction like Mercury retrograde, or a Saturn/Uranus alignment that makes you want to stay in bed all day and wait for next week to arrive.

Here are three key insights you are missing if you are afraid of the big bad astrologer, and how to resolve the problem.

1. As with all intuitive senses, much depends on interpretation.

Of course it helps to have a good reader who can tune into you and the meaning you need to hear in that moment. But even smashingly good intuitives and psychics often interpret the symbols they see through their own filters, and commonly make mistakes not in what they saw but in how they described it. That means there are many other valid interpretations of meaning, on many levels, whatever a reader or astrologer tells you.

This client was looking at a general chart of planetary energies and what they could, generally, mean. That means the astrologer did not customize the prediction to him. So we looked them over. Yes, I said, Saturn is the great teacher who brings lessons. When you are resisting his teachings, you might end up learning the hard way, ouch. Or, Saturn can mean that you will learn something wonderful and new from the event in question!

Uranus is an energy of great change and turnover–out with the old and in with the new. One way of interpreting that energy is that everything will go to heck in a hand basket. Another way is to say that transformation is coming. And I knew my client intended to create transformation with this event in question. He was relieved to hear these other, more specific interpretations, to say the least.

2. Events and forces in your personal spiritual journey may powerfully override astrological or other external forces.

I once had a dream where I was falling in love in a war zone. I was not fighting the war (was too young) and could hear it going on around me. Yet I was sappily, happily falling head over heels. In that moment, the environment of war was not affecting my spiritual journey with my beloved nearly as much as the forces of love and the hormones of youth.

Back to my client. Since I speak to bodies and higher selves, I asked his energy and received the message: “Yes yes yes, go go go! Having this event on that day ranks at a 10 out of 10 for him!” Something in his personal energy wanted that even then, no matter what was happening in the skies.

At this point in his life, the worrisome event represented a new, greater way of operating for him. He was stepping it up, moving forward. He would learn something new from this event and transform not only his own path but his students as well. His specific situation required a different interpretation from the negative general one.

3. There is ALWAYS something positive you can do in “negative” energy.

This is the greatest insight of them all. Don’t sit at home waiting for better energies to arrive next week! Whatever the prediction, there is some way you can turn it into something positive or at least something transformational. You are a natural born healer, and you have the gift to turn anything — anything — a positive way. That is the Gift of the Healer, which I discuss in detail in my book coming out this fall. We each have it.

If you must stay home, why not clean out the closet you’ve been meaning to? If you are going to postpone your event, how can you spin it to your advantage and do something extra with the time? Best of all, how can you stand firm in your intentions and move through the predicted negativity with aplomb and the eternal mind of a student? Even negative energies can have a purging effect when they take you through the darkness and out the other side.

There is ALWAYS something positive you can do in “negative” situations.

And it is your job as a healer to go find them. You can do this.

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~

How can helping others hold you back? More easily and subtly than you think.

When clients come to see me, they are stuck, stuck, stuck. They can feel a healing gift bubbling inside them, but they cannot figure out what it is or how to fully let it out. One of the most common reasons they are stuck, which I just saw again this week, is that these spectacular healers are being held back by the dark side of helping others. This issue stops healing from flowing through you and all you do. It is important to recognize it and root it out.

What does it look like? The dark side of serving, healing and helping others comes in many, many forms. For this client, it was about satisfaction. (“Ah can’t get no…”) It was about making sure everyone around her was satisfied.  Family, friends, teachers, bosses — everyone.

But wait, you say, that sounds nice! It feels great to help each other out. True. And we healers have a natural tendency to nurture, comfort, and support others. We love it!!

Yet it does not help the world when you hold yourself back, when you focus ONLY on what others need, or you burn yourself out pleasing others. This client got stuck and “forgot” about her own needs. She forgot to figure out who she was and what kind of healing she could share with the world. (A hand analysis helped there, too.)

In childhood, we imprint our energy body with inner “rules” or beliefs. The trouble is, not all of these rules are accurate. They were created in the mind of a child. They may have worked when you were 7, or in that one event, but these inner rules can cause big trouble, stuckness, and unhappiness later in life.

You might have a rule that you must help others first, for example, even to the exclusion of caring for yourself. You feel lousy (guilty) when you don’t put others first, but you can burn out when you do. Sound familiar?

We unconsciously follow these inner rules for the rest of our lives (or until we reexamine and rewrite them). I often find that healers, who love love love to help others, almost always carry some kind of set of rules that say it is selfish to support and nurture ourselves and it is proper and even holy to help others.

Yes, it is a sacred duty to help others, but the Golden Rule says “treat your neighbor as yourself”… and that implies that you treat yourself gently and well, FIRST.

Hard though it is to think this way sometimes, the most important person in the world to you is… you. Think of it this way: you have been entrusted by God with the care of a powerful, wonderful human being and healer, a beautiful lightworker who happens to have your name and look exactly like you — oh, it is you!

When you care for yourself, and when YOU feel pleased and satisfied, chances are you will be walking your spiritual path, sharing your healing gifts, fulfilling your life’s purpose, and changing the world for the better. It is from this place of inner satisfaction – NOT from the place of being stuck and tired, but from the place of spiritual fulfillment and an easier happier life — you can help a lot more people to heal.

Take Two Action Steps TODAY to Serve Others Better

How are you nuruturing and supporting you? How are you pleasing you? Right now, take two steps to allow your healing gifts to flow more effectively through you.

1. Identify one area of dissatisfaction in your life. Choose an easy one for fun and a hard one for a nice challenge. Are you sick of that pile of clutter on the kitchen counter? Tired of a friend’s behavior, your own behavior, or a responsibility you don’t like? What eats at you, nags, and wears you down, sometimes with out words — can you identify it?

Write down five ways you could change that today. Then choose one of them and work on resolving it today. If you need an extra day or two, take it, but finish resolving it. Congratulations!!

2. Identify a dream or wish you would enjoy fulfilling. How would you like to help the world? What would you like to improve about your life that would allow you to become more satisfied? Write down (you guessed it) five ways you could move closer to achieving that goal. Decide to do it. Finish the first step today and calendar the rest.

Review your Seven Steps to Awakening (available free with our kit, above) for the complete set of 7 steps to changing any situation in your life. Comment and let me know what was holding you back and how it goes!

~ Daria’s Wednesday Wisdom column ~ This post is an excerpt from Gift of the Healer by Daria Boissonnas, reprinted with permission. (Book is due out by end of 2011 — stay tuned!)

…The leaders and teachers I soon began studying and questioning – the ones producing unlikely miracle after miracle – were healers. Energy healers, in particular. But producing miracles in your life does not require energy healing! You do not even need to believe in energy healing. This gift is much deeper and simpler than that.

Because I first observed this amazing ability in healers, however, I think of it as the Gift of the Healer.

What jumps into your mind when you hear the word healer?

• A nurse or a doctor?
• A massage therapist, minister, or hospice worker?
• How about a lawyer, a scientist, or a talk-show host?
• Have you ever wondered if you were a healer?

In my experience, the word healer conjures up more confusion, discomfort, and even belligerence than it creates warm fuzzies. Even professional healers brush off the term because of the charge it carries and the confusion it triggers. I understand. When I call myself a healer, I know some folks imagine me sticking needles in dolls, hawking fake healing tonics, and dancing naked in the woods.

“Oh, that’s nice,” others say, carefully distancing themselves, “if it works for you.”

It does. Healing has allowed me to embrace possibility in my life. Better yet, it works for anyone who tries it, because we are all healers at our core. For humans, healing comes naturally, and I will show you how, every day, you do exactly what healers do to create extraordinary healing. When you learn to apply those skills mindfully, there is no telling how wonderful your life can become and how much more you can help others.

Many have tried to find a more descriptive term than healer: improvement facilitator, intention holder, possibility opener, paradigm catalyst. These seem forced to me. I like the word healer. It is short and sweet, easy to spell, and commonly used. In my book, that beats contrived phrases by a mile. (And this is my book.)

Healer is an important word with a distinct meaning. It carries power. I suspect many alternative healers avoid it because of the power it carries, but we should not shy away from this power. We cannot. We need all forms of our natural healing power, now more than ever. The world needs it. The world needs you. And you can do this.

You were born a healer.

© 2011 Daria Boissonnas
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“It is ALWAYS OK to heal.  Healing is not rejecting what was, but shifting into a new way of being that moves beyond what was.  It is always OK to evolve this way spiritually, physically, mentally, in relationships, with your environment, and in your self-relationship.  Always.”

–Daria Boissonnas, The Gift of the Healer (due out late 2011)

It was hard for me to become a healer.  I am a child of unassailable logic and practicality.  My family of origin worships science.  And I was raised to be more concerned with what everyone else thought of me than with what I thought of me.  (Thus I didn’t think much of me.)

A couple years into my healing journey, when I was reluctantly drawing the painful conclusion that in this crazy energy healing (of all things on earth) lay my destiny and purpose, I found myself in a particularly dark pit of despair, a period of immense doubt.

For a long miserable week I’d been stuck in one of those dark nights of the soul, doubting everything I had heard and experienced about healing, doubting my skills, and wondering if I had been brainwashed. Most of all I wondered if crazy people were aware that they were going crazy. Without a healing support group, and not knowing this was a common experience, I had nowhere to turn and was getting desperate.  (This is one of the many reasons I created the Global Institute for Awakening, the support group I longed for.)

One morning while brushing my teeth, pondering all that was weighing on me, I surprised myself.  Though I had never done this before, I asked for a sign.

It just popped out.  My Christian upbringing had left me with the impression that it was impertinent and greedy to ask Jesus to demonstrate that he could walk on water when you darn well knew he could.  So I assumed that asking God for help fell into the same category of offensive no-nos.

Immediately I was awash in guilt for having asked.  Yet I was struggling sooo hard, waffling between my solid inner knowing that “of course this is the right path for me”, and horrific demons of insecurity and doubt and “what will other people think.”

But out of my desperation it came.  For a moment, my mind actually gave up its constant mental machinations, its weighings and ponderings.  I simply gave up and asked,  “God, please give me a sign whether I should continue with this healing stuff or not.”  I was shocked to feel how much I meant it.  I really wanted to know, to make a decision, then and there.

Still brushing, I glanced up and out our small second-story bathroom window.  It framed a tiny selection of branches from the 200-year-old red oak about 30 feet behind our house.  As I watched, a crow immediately landed smack-dab in the middle of my view.   The exact middle.  Perfectly framed.

I stopped brushing.

The crow cocked her head and looked right at me.  Then she did something I’ve never seen another bird do before or since:  she bobbed her head up and down three times, in a big, exaggerated way.

I gaped.  She had 110% of my attention.  She seemed to pause to measure whether I’d gotten the message.  As if to make sure I had, she did it again, bob-bob-bob, looked at me a final time, and flew off.

If you know crow behavior and can explain what this action meant in the world of crows, please leave a comment.

I know what it meant to me.

I kept studying healing.

“Moooooom! Can you do something for my leg? It hurts!” 

My 15-year-old is in his tuxedo for the band concert, running upstairs for socks.

“What do you mean your leg hurts?” I ask, concerned, following him to the bottom of the stairs.

He turns the corner towards his room.  “I dunno, it’s just been hurting behind my knee and in my leg all day.”

A couple hours earlier, I had returned from a training class for a powerful new form of healing called Awakening Healing.  (Officially I am the first practitioner trained in all of North America so far!)  As my son ducks into his room for the socks, I raise my hands. 

“I’ll try the new thing I just learned, OK?”  I say, focusing on listening to his knee and legs. 

He returns right away and sits at the top of the stairs to put his socks on.  I wonder how much I’ll be able to do before he leaves.  Then I put on my Mom hat and start to wonder why his leg is hurting.

“Um, mom?” he says standing up with two socks on.

“Yeah?” I say, concentrating.

“It doesn’t hurt any more, thanks.”

Mouth open, I step aside as he speeds by me. 

Healing happens in an instant.  How fast we accept the healing results is how fast it “happens” in the physical world.  Kids are excellent at accepting fast healing, until we train them to expect it to take a long time!  Shift back into that childlike acceptance of the world’s abundance by practicing accepting ease and all good and wonderful things flowing to and through you.  Build that muscle, that habit, that mindset.  Healing IS the natural order of things.  It is the highest expression of human consciousness.

To experience the deep relaxation and inner connectedness of Awakening Healing yourself, visit this page: http://GIAwaken.com/AH

“There are no rules for good photographs, there are only good photographs.”

— Ansel Adams

I love this quote because it demonstrates Adams’ mastery. He durn well knows the standard rules of how to make a “good” photo.  And as a master, he knows how to break each one of them and still create a great photo.

Other masterful creatives have told me the same thing.  Last year a well-known makeup artist said she could tell me exactly what to wear to convey whatever message I had, and how to do my makeup.  But if I wore the wrong thing, she could adjust my makeup to “fix” any clothing faux pas.

Are you a master?  Remember that practicing specific methods or exercises only helps you develop skills. The method alone does not make you a master.  Practicing these skills with an open mind and good feedback leads to mastery.

In mastery you bypass other people’s rules and develop your own relationship with outcomes.  You find more ways to get there than you were ever taught.  In mastery, you don’t need your tools or methods or anything.

Eventually, we must let go of the ground to really fly.  For healers and creatives that means practicing until you internalize a method, and then creating the same results — or even better ones — your way.

This is the most powerful way to share the heart of your unique gifts and leave the world a better place.

Wish you had more Time, Money, Health, Love, Support, Meaning, or Utter Bliss in your life?

These things flow in increasing amounts when you step into your Highest Calling. 
It’s not scary.  It’s not difficult.  It’s just that sometimes our stories or misunderstandings about our Calling make it seem that way.

Know what you should know about your Calling.  Check out these 10 facts right now!

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When you’re ready to discover your Calling and remove doubt about what you are here to do, join us for our 4-part transformational workshop “Calling In Your Calling“, starting March 16th.

This isn’t a boring class full of information only – it’s a package of powerful and practical insights, a personal reading to discover your own Calling, a one-on-one mentoring session to start to implement it, AND the healing to break through what’s been holding you back.

Commit to your Calling today.  Take a step towards fulfilling it.

Questions? Email us at support@GIAwaken.com.

I’ve always wanted to paint.  In 2001, I took my first painting class from the local recreation program.  I thought of myself as a logical professional at the time, not an artsy type.  I bought the materials relying entirely on the list and the store clerk, shocked at the huge variety of paintbrushes.

I can see myself sitting at the easel in my dad’s old shirt one day, feeling guilty for asking mom to get the paints out for me, staring at the blank paper, needing to create something worthwhile… but completley blanking on WHAT I wanted to paint so badly.  Conclusion: Painting was too hard, too frustrating.  

Turns out, it wasn’t a class as much as an artist walking around the room for 2 hours.  My questions started with, “What do I do?”  Then, “What should I paint?”  She suggested a still life. 

Not having brought the requisite vase and fruit, I ran to the car and collected four plastic kid blocks out of the baby seat.  I followed her rough suggestions, outlining the blocks and attempting to shade them.

When I think of that class, all I remember is frustration and disappointment.  I couldn’t figure out shadows.  She didn’t tell me exactly how to do it.  The class was bad, I thought, the teacher was bad.  The teacher even said my painting was good — was she blind?!  I didn’t like the painting at all.  I was experiencing a world crisis! 

I used to get a sick feeling thinking of that first painting, but yesterday I dug it out and looked at it for the first time in a decade.  I was shocked to see it has a lot of promise for a first painting, though unfinished and unfinessed.  Looking with my eyes today, in fact, I think it’s great!  (And how appropriate: baby building blocks, LOL. See pic.) 

So Many Lessons Learned

1. All my angst was in my head.  It came from me, not the class.  I had expectations about the class, and because it was different than *I* demanded, I got upset.  Really upset.  I created a crisis and then lived the negative emotions and beliefs, for years and years afterwards, to my own detriment.  I did that a lot back then.

2. First paintings are masterpieces too: masterpieces of learning.  Now I see that since you never stop learning, you can let everything in your life be a masterpiece of learning!  Wow, you are SO good.

3. Things you do are never, ever as bad as you think.  Self-judgment is the worst.  We can be more cruel to ourselves than to anyone else.  Believe the compliments you get.  Write them down.  Repeat them to yourself.  You totally rock.

4. Get back up on the bike.  How can you judge your first painting?  Your first book?  Your first song?  Your first client’s results?  Keep going!  You are so much more than any single thing you do.

Will I take up painting again?  …Stay tuned…

Whew, I’ve been going through a major healing wave in the last few weeks!  The kind where I stop calling my friends for a while b/c I’m processing stuff.  (They are used to this, bless them.)  In mid-January, it was like a floodgate opened on a clogged dry riverbed.  As the water has poured through, huge logs, boulders, branches, and rotten things have lifted away effortlessly, piece by piece.  

In the last week it’s been washing away blocks to my creativity.  Yes, I finally saw the pattern that when I start super-creative projects that are really “me”, they all seem to die!  Hmmm.  It’s time for that to stop, and I know that’s why this is clearing itself up. 

What Makes an Artist an Artist?

Oddly, since Tuesday I’ve been badly longing to see some paintings I did in 2001 after I took my very first painting class from the local recreation program.  It wasn’t a class as much as an artist walking around the room.  My questions started with, “What do I do?”  I hated the two paintings I attempted in that class. 

Daria's painting #3

About the same time, an astrologer told me I was so creative I should leap out of bed in the morning saying, “I am an artist!  I am an artist!  I am an artist!”  

Feh.  I was not an artist. I majored in econ with lots of math and computer courses.  I worked in finance.  I was logical, thank you very much. 

Then again, since I was little, I’ve longed to paint.  I remember sitting in front of blank paper, desperately wanting to paint, knowing I could, knowing the feeling of painting, but not being able to do it.  Blocked. 

So at my request this morning, my weekly healing mastermind focused on unlocking and healing creativity.  We cleared dozens of false beliefs that had been getting in my way.  Do you recognize any of these?  (You also can clear them by adding “I choose to lose the concept that…”) 

• Science is superior to art. 
• Art is a waste of time, artsy-fartsy, something to be made fun of, something to hide.
• Art is not valuable.  (So you have to buy cheap materials and you certainly can’t make a living out of it.)
• Nobody can be good at art except the chosen special few like Monet and VanGough, definitely not me.
• <Insert critical comment here about your art.>
• It’s too risky to put yourself out there genuinely through your art.

I hope you can see the utter ridiculousness of these few samples! 

As we worked, I finally went downstairs and dug out the paintings.  I was shocked to find they were MUCH better than I remembered.  In fact, my fourth painting (an unfinished bowl of pears) triggered an almost meditative state of Presence for me.  I’ll be working with that one this week! 

The Secret to Art & Why It Will Always Be In Demand – Always

Am I an artist? Are you?  In 14 years of learning why artists are stuck and sick, I’ve discovered a secret about art.  By observing my healing work with many high-level artists and creatives, I’ve concluded that creativity, intuition, and healing all come from the same place.  It is a place we are each connected to and a part of.  

Daria's Painting #4, Unfinished

It’s not the physical, mechanical, logical, emf side of life.  Art connects us to the nonphysical, intuitive, knowing, genuine, connected, One-with-All side of the universe.  Art connects both the artist and the beholder to that Other Side, that part of ourselves we have a hard time sensing, the part with all the deep Peace, Love, Wisdom, Fulfillment and Bliss we could want.  We CRAVE this connection.  

Intuition also comes from connecting to that place of Wisdom and Potential, of Knowing.  And so does genuine transformative healing.  When we connect to that part of ourselves and use that part of our consciousness, we can shift to a better way of living and being in a way that changes our lives for the better.  Permanently.  That’s healing. 

Yes, perk up, starving artists –  since good art connects us with that infinite, higher side of ourselves, it will ALWAYS be in demand, always.  

My Challenge for You

I’m taking a look at my own art and creativity this week, with loving and accepting eyes this time.  I know I’m ready to do this.  I invite or even challenge you to do the same.  Then share your journey and art with us in the comments.  Post your blog or art links.  The more we share our stories of creativity, the more we can help each other and raise the next generation to accept their Inner Artists.  The more we enjoy art ourselves, the more we can heal. 

Art, at its core, is a level of mastery: mastery of patterns, mastery of connections, mastery of seeing the same thing in a new way.  So too is healing. 

When you master life’s patterns, you can create the GREATEST ART IN THE WORLD: making an art form out of LIVING YOUR LIFE and leaving the world a better place.  You can make an art of living, healing and Awakening. 

Are you an artist?  Am I?  

Yes, my friend, we sure are.  

I see the innate artist in you, and I am blessed by it.  Thank you for that.

It’s what you were born to do.

It is the highest expression of your gifts.

And stepping into it creates the greatest life you can imagine, flowing with wealth, wellness, and genuine happiness.

It is your Higher Calling. But if you don’t know what it is or how it works, you can spend your life chasing shadows and suffering.

Join us for a free talk on Friday, Feb 18, when we’ll share 10 important facts you need to understand about awakening your Calling and creating your dream life in a way that naturally makes a positive difference. You’ll be glad you heard this info!

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Many blessings on your spiritual journey,

• Do you get up in the morning and do pretty much what you did yesterday?
• Do you feel like nothing you try will change the outcome of your life?
• Do you assume that what happened to you long ago has trapped you forever? (That’s a big myth!)

In the movie Groundhog Day, Bill Murray’s character falls into a time warp where no matter what crazy impulsive thing he does, even killing himself, he wakes up at exactly the same time on the same morning, over and over. 

It’s a movie of course, and the sarcastic angry character eventually shifts from manipulating his environment for the sense of power and accomplishment to genuinely connecting with those around him, esp his love interest. And it happens because this crazy time warp forces him, out of boredom, to stop looking at the surface of things.

Last week a client told me the same thing–that her life felt like the Groundhog Day movie.  Though she knew better, she observed herself every day repeating the same bad habits, the same shortcuts, the same behaviors that were keeping her stuck.  She said she felt like she lacked the power to stop repeating them. “How can I break out of that?” was her question.

Good question.

Plain and simple, I find behavior like this happens when a person is avoiding their Calling. 

It’s a very strong urge, the Calling.  It is an instinct so strong we can feel it but not always put words and actions on it. 

To block it off, to delay doing what you were born to do, to step out of your innate power, you need some serious firepower — lots of energy.  The most concentrated energy we can muster is called up by our emotions.  So the more stuck you get, the more frustrated and angry and grief-stricken and regretful and self-deprecating you get, the more you can “safely” avoid your calling.  The more you can stay attached to those things that happened in your childhood, the unfairness of life, the jealousy, the things that keep you small.  The more you can stay stuck.

BUT, Life is motion, and Life always moves forward.  As time passes, you naturally forget broken hearts, negative comments, etc.  To remember these things, you must think about them and drag in the energy of negative emotions to strengthen your connection with them.  Otherwise, your connections naturally fade.  To stay stuck in limiting habits, you need to generate negative emotion.  Unfortunatley, the side effect of this avoidance loop is that you suffer. A lot.  After a while, it feels awful and you would give anything to change it.

But suffering is not necessary. I remember when I was stuck in a similar place many years ago. I thought I would go crazy with how miserable I was, even I appeared to be living a fine life.  ONE thing pulled me through to the wonderful place I am today.  One thing.  It was that small part of me that knew, I mean it KNEW I was supposed to be doing something else.  Something greater.  Something that made a difference.  I had no idea what it was, but I hung onto that tiny bit of knowingness for dear life, and following it pulled me out of that misery and suffering. 

Can you hear or feel that tiny part of you that KNOWS you are not doing what you were meant to do?  Perhaps you even know what you are supposed to be doing, but feel helpless to break out of your current situation!

Are you ready to break free?  Are you ready to let go of the draining dramas and the tiring tirades once and for all?  The Global Institute for Awakening was founded to help you step into your Calling, the thing you were born to do.  If you aren’t following your calling, something will feel like it’s missing in your life.  You can win everything, get the job the spouse the car the house you desire, but something is still missing.  When life doesn’t satisfy, you’re missing your Calling. 

Following your Calling allows you to live the life of your dreams — full of health, wealth, wisdom, peace, love and joy – while making a big difference in the world.

I invite you to make a decision today to give up the distracting disempowerment and say yes to your Divine gifts.  To let go of the painful routine that is knowable and predictable and to say yes to allowing the Universe to blindly guide you into bliss.  To stop doubting and start trusting. To stop ignoring your gifts and acknowledge them. To stop depriving yourself of your lucrative dream life and start nourishing yourself.  Make the decision today.  Find that tiny bit of knowingness inside you that says you were meant to do something else, something greater than this.  Write your decision on paper.  Write supporting statements of intention.  And when you mean it, the Universe will answer you.

Then consider joining us for our new transformative seminar called “I Am My Calling:  How to Know and Fulfill Your Highest Calling to Create a Meaningful & Lucrative Business/Family/Life you Love that Makes a BIG Difference“.  This is more than just information!  You seek information when you’re stuck, but how do you get unstuck? 

We’re combining workshop classes with breakthrough personal work & healing work to disconnect those old connections that hold you back and align you more fully and easily with your innate Calling and divine gifts.  ”I Am My Calling” not only gives you the information, but helps you cut cords, break habits, and transition into implementing it in your life!

Learn more about this class and our earlybird registration prices here.  Class starts March 16, 2011.

•  Ever long for relief from a gift that feels like a curse?
•  Got an intuitive idea for a business you know can work… but on the other hand, don’t believe it can happen?
•  Know inside you are called to do something creative and wonderful, but you are afraid to step into it?
•  Feeling a calling… to… do… um, something… but not sure what?

We are each called to a greater expression of ourselves, but without some important information about this process, your calling can instead create pain, misery and depression.  Sign up for our email list so you can listen Wednesday to find out why that happens and how to reverse the pain and thrive with your calling.

Discover the simplest way to answer your deepest yearnings, know why you are here, and live a life of meaning, fulfillment, and purpose.  Best of all, discover why 2011 is such a great year to strengthen your commitment to your highest calling and step into it!

Register for the call and audio recording afterwards by simply signing up for our email list at the top of this page!  If you already have, you will receive a reminder just before the call and a notice about the audio later. 

Date: Wednesday January 26, 2011
Time: 11am Pacific/2pm Eastern US
Speaker:  Daria Boissonnas, Founder, Global Institute for Awakening

Note from Daria ~ Newsletter 18 Jan 2011

Oh what a week!

Last week was download week for me, and I’m still catching up with reality.  Messages, classes, marketing campaigns, coincidental offers — it all popped in, one after another after another. Almost to overwhelm level.

Have you experienced this yourself?  When your creativity goes crazy, and you become a fountain of ideas?  It’s exciting!  We are each connected to the Pool of All Possibilities, and when we open that connection, we can pull in new, life-enhancing options.  We can make the impossible possible.

Then the BIG question becomes: what do I do about it first?  

Doing something about it is where GIA comes in.  We give you the practical tools and systems to shift that creative fountain of ideas to a well-oiled, enjoyable business, practice or career. 

Here’s my favorite first step:  always always write down the idea or insight that came in. This action honors the Source of the idea.  It’s like saying thank you, plus you ARE taking the FIRST STEP to manifesting the concept in the physical/mental world.  

I keep a “Brainstorms” file on the computer where I write these down, plus a little notebook in my purse.  A beautiful journal would be delightful.

Another good reason to write them down is that sometimes these download experiences can be like dreams — you may have shifted into an altered state, so when you start operating in the everyday world, the brilliant ideas fade like a dream in the morning.  Though they were earth-shattering, now you can’t remember them.

So write them all down, right away.  Then enjoy sifting thru that Brainstorms file now and again to find insights and ideas you can still use.

Let me know how this strategy goes.  Here’s to you and your highest calling!!  

Many blessings,

Daria Boissonnas
Founder, Global Institute for Awakening

TWO Free Calls this Week!

Thursday: Has Your Astro Sign Changed… or Not?

The internet is abuzz about recent news articles that point out that the sun was not actually in your natal astrological sign when you were born, due to the tipping of the earth.  They also claim the Babylonians took a sign out of the zodiac.  Should it be there?  Find out on Thursday.

Tell your friends:  anyone who is signed up for our email list or freebie Wake-Up Kit (at top of every page and at http://GIAwaken.com) will get info for this free call.)

Date: Thursday, 20 January 2011
Time: 12 noon Pacific/3pm Eastern

Speakers: Daria Boissonnas, Global Institute for Awakening Founder, interviews
Patricia Selmo, professional astrologer & ordained minister

How to Sign Up:  Everyone on our email list will get call-in details.  Subscribe to our freebie above or at GIAwaken.com to register for the call details.

Weds the 26th: Your Spiritual Calling and How to Thrive with It

Got a gift that feels like a curse? Listen & discover how to live with your greatest gift — your calling!  Daria will explain why it is much easier to follow your calling than to ignore it.  Join us for this call and we’ll also explain why 2011 is such a great year to strengthen your commitment to your highest calling and step into it!

Tell your friends:  Anyone signed up for our email list or freebie Wake-Up Kit, at the top of every page and at http://GIAwaken.com, will get info for this free call.

Date: Wednesday, 26 January 2011
Time: 11 am Pacific/2pm Eastern

Speaker: Daria Boissonnas, Founder of the Global Institute for Awakening

How to Sign Up:  Everyone on our email list will get call-in details.  Subscribe to our freebie above or at GIAwaken.com to register for the call details.